After our first conversation in his car, I felt connected to him, it was like we've known each other forever. He was just second to perfect (since there's nothing like 100%). A true Christian in every sense LovingFeel.com Reviews of the word (not a cliché), good-looking, promising and all. In fact he's what I have been praying for all this while.
After series of conversations, he
one day summed it up by describing his ideal wife; something we both knew I
fitted into perfectly. So I went home and like I do, I introduced him to the
keeper of my soul. That night I prayed fervently to God to open my eyes to see
if he is the one before I end up falling head over heels with Kwame, yes that
was his name. My ex carried that name, so did my dad, it was special.
Days turned into weeks and he
finally took me on a date, it was a surprise and we both enjoyed it. He
officially said that was our first, which possibly means there would be a
second and a forever. Even though nothing had been said, we acted as lovers. LovingFeel I remember
he kept feeding me with pieces of chicken. We had a playful evening and romance
was beaming in the air as our hands were locked into each other all the way.
That night when I got home, I went to God again to inquire about Kwame and I
received a visual heavenly mail when I slept. There wasn't anything negative
neither was it clear, so the following morning, I sent the mail back and
requested if I could get a clearer message.
Even though Kwame and I were all
lovey dovey, we never got intimate but when I saw him with other ladies,
jealousy flooded my heart. As time went by I got confused because heaven hadn't
replied or probably I had missed the call. Something else was eating me up, I
realized we only got engaged when we meet (our workplaces were close by) he
never calls or texts and I felt he wasn't taking us serious. You see, as at
that time I have been single for about two years and no matter how I made
myself busy, LovingFeel.com loneliness
was a plague I couldn't escape (it's different and more difficult when you've
been in a relationship before) and it even got worse when my immediate social
circles begun to doubled up.
It was a Thursday evening and we
had closed from work. I met Kwame who looked a bit distressed, he told me he
was driving to Cape Coast and would be back to Accra later in the evening. It
was so fast I couldn't ask what he was going to do there. The following day, I
met him and asked casually ''what time did you arrive in Accra'', he said ''
about 9:30pm''. I curiously probed further, ''so what at all will make you
drive all the way to Cape Coast and back in one night'', he said '' my
girlfriend was very ill so I had to go and bring her home''. What! There is a
girlfriend? How I felt got me taking a long walk speaking in tongues because at
that moment, it was as though I had swallowed an elephant. Anyway, I was able
to hide it from him.
Well, now that we both know he has
a girlfriend, what do you think we should do? No we didn't, he kept coming unto
me and kept dropping hints, as though he was single. I on the other hand was so
hurt I decided to play along, so I tagged what we had a 'fling'. I was
gradually becoming the ''other woman'' while hoping his ''supposedly''
girlfriend doesn't exist, or will even vanish. After all I wasn't breaking any
home because they weren't married.
My story today is to elaborate to
you how it feels to be the other woman and a cues that informed my later
decision. However, it is important to note that I wanted to stay away from him
initially but then he would have realized I was doing so because the girlfriend
issue came up, which would mean I have a thing for him and that would have been
very embarrassing because he hadn't said anything serious to me.
Whether you are acting as the other
woman or you actually are, take this from me;
• You are not his priority, his
girlfriend is. This is a lady he chose among all other ladies to get committed
to, possibly planning a future with. You guys can have all the fun you want but
it is she who would be wrapped in his arms against the cold night. Girl you are
so secondary.
• You are breaking the girl's code.
Personally I have some kind of sisterhood affection for all females and I try
to watch their backs if she is not bloody Mary. My dear put yourself in her
shoes, would you happy. At a point when he was giving me soft caresses I
stooped him because I felt it was total disrespect to his girlfriend.
• It's possible he just wants sex.
I know a lot of you will disagree with me on this, but it's so true. As I said
earlier, Kwame and I never got to that point, not even a kiss but I could tell
he was aroused by my looks, my figure and all things physical. So I thought,
was that all I was worth?
• If you manipulate your way to his
heart, remember someone is better skilled at that than you are and you may just
find yourself descending soon.
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